The saying “you can’t have your cake and eat it too” has never made much sense to me. Why wouldn’t you eat your cake if you have it? Seems a little wasteful. Despite the almost oxymoron, I get it. As my journey into growing my own practice and my journey into motherhood deepens I sometimes feel like this alleged cake is either my practice or my daughter.
My goal for motherhood is to raise my daughter in a way that she knows she has always been loved deeply, that she knows she deserves intention, that there is someone Greater than ourselves to put hope in, and that my phone or my computer is not more appealing to me than she is. I want her to know peace when it’s time to say no and joy when it’s time to say yes. I want her to know hard work and the reward that follows. I want her to crave movement and oppose sedentary lifestyles and sedentary thinking.
My goal for my practice is yes, of course to help people. That’s a given as a healthcare practitioner. The goal for my practice is to have a platform to teach people how to take control of their bodies and discovery autonomy. The goal for my practice is to have an outlet to serve more than just the people I can physically put my hands on. The goal for my practice is to discover barriers that need to be broken. It is and will continue to be more than just a source of income.
Both my daughter and my practice require intention, attention, nurturing, and passion. Both require an incredible amount of time and both are a joy to pour time into. Wait, what about my husband? What about my duties as a homemaker? What about my other relations and endeavors? That subject deserves its own post.
It is a choice to pursue both. Well, really it’s a choice to pursue growing my practice. It is a choice to be present and intentional in both. That being said, how the bejeezus do I maintain sanity and order? Sanity is subjective, but knowing when to pull back and regroup is incredibly important. I like to use my fun little Panda Planner to keep my thoughts and goals organized and intentional. As someone with multiple (managed) autoimmune issues and as someone who experienced four major concussions in a two year period not that long ago, having structure in a world where your schedule is a wild card is paramount.
Another factor that is essential for maintaining balance is mentorship. I have continued to grow my clinic skills since the moment I stepped foot in my first PT job, but as Danny Matta says, “we invest in improving clinical skills, but we rarely focus on business skills”. That is a dang straight fact for most PTs I know. I have recently committed to investing in guidance instead of making a whole bunch of time wasting and money wasting mistakes. Danny Matta, Yves Gege, and Jerred Moon have put together a killer program in how to work smarter, not harder. I didn’t realize it at the time, but the moment I chose to walk down this delightfully efficient path, the trajectory of my family’s life changed for the better.
All that being said I wouldn’t be able to do any of the aforementioned without the support of my incredibly patient and loving husband and the support of my family. It really does take a village to raise a child.